Emotional abuse in a nutshell

I recently came across a quote that captures verbal abuse in a nutshell:-

Avoid people who:-

1.  mess with your head
2.  intentionally and repeatedly do and say things that they know upset you
3.  expect your to prioritise them but refuse to prioritise you
4.  can’t and won’t apologise sincerely
5.  act like the victim when confronted with their abusive behaviour

(David Wolfe)

It’s difficult to avoid such a person when they are a spouse, family member or work colleague, of course. So what can you do? Well, that’s what this site is all about.

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Little-understood

Over five years have passed since I put this site online, in response to a request from a doctor who was concerned by the increasing numbers of patients who were living with emotional and verbal abuse.

In the meantime I have continued to research and write on other areas of health, particularly the emerging science of epigenetics.

This research has been revealing a previously little-understood aspect of  personality disorders i.e. the effect of epigenetics on brain chemicals.

For example, dopamine is the empathy brain chemical. When dopamine is impaired there is little or no empathy – little or no understanding of the effect of damaging words or actions on others.

Another effect of impaired brain chemicals is “Ever hearing yet never understanding, ever seeing yet never perceiving.” This is why logic and discussion are powerless to counter verbal abuse.

There is a lot more I could write to make the connection between epigenetics and personality disorders – and I will. In the meantime I’ve written about epigenetics on my Food For Thought site.

Read it bearing in mind that the resulting impairment of brain chemicals is a crucial factor in personality disorders and abuse. It’s not the only factor – but it is one that needs to be more widely understood.

Eileen

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what this site’s about

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The main Food For Thought web site deals with those underlying nutritional conditions that can affect mental/emotional health

This site is aimed at those who are struggling to understand and to deal with the attitudes of people they live or work with

  • It’s not simply about diagnosable mental/emotional conditions or personality disorders – though the insights may be relevant to them
  • It’s about how we may have been affected by these people or by our childhood experience
  • It’s about a level of emotional ill-health that may go unrecognised, or only partially recognised, either in ourselves or in others
  • It’s about how we are shaped by our relationships
  • It’s about how to deal with relationships that are damaging us

 

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